IT ISN'T OUT THERE IT'S IN HERE!

Looking Inside into your own Beautiful Mind

Looking Inside into your own Beautiful Mind

What a relief…

I've remembered what I've forgotten and I've awakened to my inner world!

What a relief!

After countless years searching 'out there' in the big wide outer world I realise what I was really searching for was inside of me all along. Right here, in my own Beautiful Mind.

It’s got everything…

My mind is a sustained source of peace, happiness and joy. I‘d like to  share with you free flowing thoughts and mindful action. intuition, imagination and insight alongside everyday free and crystal clear thinking and feeling for you to reshape your inner world for outer bliss.

It’s all yours…

You can achieve this, it's just a matter of recognising, utilising and living from your inner world as opposed to trying to function 'out there' in a never sleeping 24/7 fast-becoming digital world.

Small wonder everyone experiences exhaustion, full-on and never ending living!

Who am I?

Hah! there's a question! Well, some  call me a transformation catalyst. I’ve taken a step away from Counselling, NLP, Reiki Healing, stress and wellbeing, body work and Dream Catching, because, well you see, I found what when I used my skills (I’ve over 10,000 hours with clients and, whoops a lot of years! I might be counselling - say - only to recognise that what my client needed was healing, or healing or body work and recognise that my client wanted to open up and explore their inner world through talking and dreaming.

Wisdom Sharing and Mentoring

I offer you signposts on your life journey.

Transformation through wisdom sharing and mentoring via donation.

If you find that you don’t fit into a system or box or tribe and you are open to new and different ways of being and becoming you may find wisdom sharing and mentoring for your way forward most appealing.

 If you have a thought, question, quest or reflection, then why not talk with me, write or connect via zoom?

What is important is you. Your life journey, your beliefs, your thoughts, your truth, your inner world. 

How you see your reality and how it is shaping up for you. 

If you are questioning your life journey - those deep down questions we all have: who am I and why am I here? What is not working so well for me right now, I want more but that doesn't sit right when others are without… You know, those sort of questions, then please know you aren’t alone. Of course not! They’re experiences, questions, concerns and fears we all face along our human journey.


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Where we all believe through our mind and hearts that everything is potential and possible

Imagine being part of a group willing to support and encourage you to live on the inside, in your inner world alongside like minded and hearted others.

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This is me after one of my wellbeing radio shows.

This is me after one of my wellbeing radio shows.

How to Meditate: I'll handle tomorrow well if I stay in the Present

How to Meditate - I’ll handle tomorrow well if I stay in the present

How to Meditate - I’ll handle tomorrow well if I stay in the present



What is it like to be fully present?

"My perception, my understanding is greater. It's as though I can see round corners! There are many possibilities. I can see, I can absorb and I’m not overwhelmed. My mind is not busy, nor am I spaced out."

"My mind is still, like a clear pool. Perfectly crystal clear. I am fully present. Yes, it’s a gift to be in my present. I see that now. Everything is crystal clear. I can see all. Now I attend to my life so differently."




Essentially, I am talking about my Self. 'My real Self.' Devoid of all (chattering monkey) thoughts, the 'what ifs' and 'what else could I do?' and 'what else I need to do?'

I am talking about attending with one-pointed focus to the challenge in hand, in the present. Rather than living in the past (what haven't I done) or in the future (there's still so much to do).

I am attending to my present. And, yes, it might well be seen as a gift.

Contrary to what you might believe, we all have this gift. It just takes focus and commitment.

A One-point focussed mind: No Chattering Monkey Thoughts

"All thoughts of blame ( blaming someone or something else) are gone. I am in control. It is me. It is not about anyone else. I'm not pushing against any tide, any person and any system. I am not pre-empting problems ( the 'what if' syndrome) instead, I am attentive to all and everything in that specific moment. I slip through into another space. Another dimension. Yet I’m still functioning."

It took me a long long while before I could see the joke: that within the moment is my present. At that moment, I have everything. A cosmic gift!

So why can't I stay in my present? What is stopping me? Blocking me?

Ah ha! What is left is ME :-) My own stuff.

This can include some or all of the following: negative self-beliefs ( some of those I put there, some of them are from previous partners, experiences, jobs and childhood) and my own lingering fears and false beliefs, maybe  disappointment for unfulfilled dreams and expectation to reality, grief, anger…

Here's my experience: I found committing myself to me, giving myself the time and the space to move through my busy world into a space of stillness and learning to be 'in the moment' harrowing. I experienced it as challenging and frustrating too.

First it was harrowing because I couldn't do it and I didn't know how to begin. The thoughts (of which I believed I had no control) were enormous and overwhelming. They consumed me and my day and my behaviour toward others. And that was harrowing for me. I realised that to handle my thousands of thoughts I had to watch my emotions, my feelings. For often they would trigger thoughts and reactions.

Further into my quest to stay 'in the moment,' the challenges were fast and furious, often overwhelming. As I explored and practised, I found myself slipping into past patterns. Of course, it was great that I could see I was experiencing past patterns because

a) it meant I was observing myself

b) I was being honest with myself and

c) I could do something about it. I could ask myself "Do these past patterns serve me well now? And if not, I need to do something about them in order to move on." I was willing to move through my blocks. People who don't like change, please take note, look honestly at yourself and ask yourself whether not liking or not coping well with change is blocking you moving on in your life. This may well be your first 'pro-active' step to handling all of your tomorrows!

Often I would find myself even more overwhelmed than I was in the first place. I explain this now, by saying it is rather like a see-saw: there are days when one feels great, many small steps forward have been achieved. There are also days when nothing happens or, even worse, hundreds or even thousands of steps backwards are experienced. Eventually, the see-saw swinging reduces. It evens out, a plateau is reached. Calmness steps in. It is then one can appreciate stillness. And want to stay in it. In fact, to crave it. It is not frightening, it is loving, peaceful and so powerful, so very still and pregnant with potential.

I've talked about my journey to stay 'in the moment' as being harrowing and challenging. For me, there was frustration too. This is where although I'm on the path, would not want to be on any other path, and I can stay in the present some if not most of the time, I'm frustrated because I slip out of it! The frustration, I know, is there to tell me I need to go further, I haven't loosened enough of myself. I haven't freed up enough of the expectations I put on myself to just BE. And then, somehow it just happened...I lost the frustration. Instead, what do I now do? I smile. I'm not hard to myself anymore. I'm just me. And I don't have expectations of others. I've unlocked another door on my journey to come home to my Self. I simply laugh at myself. I can't begin to tell you how freeing that is! Yes, I continue to feel relaxed and move through the awareness that I've slipped from staying 'in the moment' and it is ok!

Remembering What You Have Forgotten

Please believe me when I say there is NO one way, one tool, one training that can ensure you will remain in the present.

Mindfulness is the current 'magical' tool. And will serve many very well. Yet staying in the moment requires all of our intelligences: we function on many levels through our mind, our body, our emotions, our intuition and our spiritual selves. We have five senses: sound, touch, taste, seeing and smell. All communicate information requiring us to absorb and integrate. In fact, a sound can transport us to another time, another place, as can a smell or a picture.

Paying attention and staying in the moment asks us to dissolve all. Asks us to detach, rather than block or hold onto thoughts, emotions, memories. Instead, to function with free flowing thoughts and mindful action.

The ability to:

  • relax

  • to ease tension in the body and the mind

  • to be able to step back, separate fact from emotion

  • learn to respond rather than react, are all part of the process of staying in the moment.

Just imagine what it could be like for you?

"It happens ...occasionally..it happens... up bubbles the gifts...an original thought...an ah ha moment....a bubble of pure bliss....of joy.....the right action to take 'a deep knowing' .....the one angle I had forgotten to look at. All the while I am relaxed, without tension. I might be getting on with my day, or attending slowly and methodically with great attention to the small things in life. What is gradually happening, is that I'm experiencing the deep still crystal clear waters are sustaining me...continually sustaining me....connecting me to everything in this world: to you, to me and beyond...an ineffable Source" '

"It makes living so much lighter. It makes work so much easier."

How does staying in the moment help me in my tomorrows?

Well, if it is not obvious by now... You'll be calm, clear and always resourceful. Might that help at work? Home? Generally, in your life?

OH and by the way, the added benefit that always comes from clearing out your thoughts and negativity is authenticity.

'When I loved my self enough I realised that only when I am feeling and acting lovingly did others respond lovingly.'



All is Possible and Nothing is Impossible

THINK YOURSELF INTO HAPPINESS

"Everything is possible and nothing is impossible. You are only ever limited by your mind."

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"We are all made of stars and carry eternity inside." Thich Nhat Hanh

Ann Tanmayi

INTRODUCING YOU TO YOUR BEAUTIFUL MIND, BODY, SPIRIT WITH ANN TANMAYI



THREE VITAL KEYS TO UNLOCKING YOUR PERSONAL FREEDOM IN YOUR SIXTIES

Personal Freedom and Ageing Well - you are the pattern maker and breaker of your own destiny

Personal Freedom and Ageing Well - you are the pattern maker and breaker of your own destiny

This blog first appeared on Sixty and Me Website where I am a guest blogger. 

When you think about freedom and ageing well, what pops into your mind?

Is this an oxymoron or can you step into an even greater personal power in your sixties and beyond? 

I’ve noticed a pattern to my work over the years with clients when it comes to unlocking personal freedom and ageing well. Here are the 3 top keys to freedom I have identified:

1.    Don’t worry

2.    Be True To Your Dreams

3.    It is what it is and I am what I am!

Don’t worry

Many of us worry how we’ll be when we grow older. Will we act similarly to our parents perhaps? Experience same problems and illnesses? It’s inevitable really, to worry or wonder what might or will happen to us as we enter our sixties and beyond. 

Of course, most of us are pleasantly surprised because through wisdom and experience we learn a vital freedom-rich secret, which is not to worry. That it is what it is. 

In fact, take note of this lovely Tibetan saying:

·      If you can do something about it, then why worry?

·      And if you can’t do anything about it, then why worry?

Actually, it makes sense, really, after all, it’s impossible to second-guess others. On average, we have 60,000 thoughts going around in our minds in any 24 hours, so how can we know what people are thinking about us? And, as importantly, if you really want to think about it, how many of us can discern every thought that goes around in our very own minds at any given time?

One of the ways we learn how to move into this freedom from restriction is to discern the difference between expectations to reality.

A typical one many of us experience over the years is how we juggle the balls of work and home life where we can be restricted by expectations from others as well as our own. Along the way, we worry about ‘fitting in.’ Especially if we’re climbing up the slippery and political career ladder and having time off for children.  As we aim high in our expectations we find ourselves not wanting to ’rock the boat’ after all, juggling work and home life take a particular set of expert skills!

With work and home life probably different than in our forties and fifties now’s the time to expand your freedom.

It can begin with taking your personal power back. You no longer need to walk on eggshells, worrying about what people think. In fact, if you have to worry at all, worry about where your own freedom is restricted:

·      Begin with asking for what you want. Because you are worth it.

·      After all these years it should now be about your own self-worth, living by your own set of values.

·      If you are a caring and sensitive soul, let's be very clear, it is a fact: we cannot nurture others from a dry well!

As we all move through the gateway into our sixth decade, there are vital secrets we need to know and learn to enhance our personal power enabling us to age well. One vital key is how to live in the moment, with the first step being not to worry.

This is what the Gateway into your Sixth Decade is all about: moving into a greater sense of your own self.

BE TRUE TO YOUR DREAMS

Are you following what makes your heart sing? Are you in alignment with the dreams of your earliest years?

Life has a way of taking us everywhere but where our heart really lies - in that special and sacred space where we can lose ourselves in joy, peace and creativity.

Two clients of mine recently began a new business together with a combined age (wisdom and experience) of 128 years.

Their hearts were calling to them and they wanted to revolt against the expectation that when you’re in your sixties or older, the presumption is that   work will cease, let alone the idea of setting up a new business. They told me they could identify with their childhood dreams and in opening up to them, they were experiencing a new surge of energy.  

We discussed positive role models identifying the rock and film stars from the seventies and eighties, and how many of them are challenging society’s assumption around ageing. 

I see this pattern again and again: where the working career takes a person into say, law or engineering, yet on the inside they have always been an artist – poetry, painting, writing, some form of self-expression. This is exactly how my clients were looking at their lives right now. They were honouring the artist inside of them.

When we listen to our hearts and our dreams and act upon them our payback will be more energy and vitality. My clients power of self-determination was giving them their longing for freedom to be in alignment with their childhood dreams.

It is what it is and I am what I am.

Bill Wyman of the Rolling Stones gave an interview where he said “When I reach an age where I’m unable to look after myself easily don’t assume I’ll want to be taken on outings with others of a similar age. No, I’ll want my independence to the end, marijuana on tap and any carers will need to be young, pretty and with short skirts!”  OK, so we might not all subscribe to Bill Wyman’s vision, but at least his view was a humorous one, where having fun and maintaining independence was high up on his list.  

Some countries are taking advantage of this, in what I might call a silver-revolution: Japan is experiencing a super-ageing society with over 30% of the population now over sixty years of age.   They are gearing up for this ever-growing people power aware they are performing at a higher level than those of a similar age from the 20th century. Japan may well be leading the way in terms of the freedom and the quality of independence.

What could all this mean for you and me and our personal power and freedom in our sixties and beyond?

What pops into your mind when you think of freedom and ageing well? I’m curious to hear your thoughts. Please join the conversation!


 

THINK YOURSELF INTO HAPPINESS

"Everything is possible and nothing is impossible. You are only ever limited by your mind."

Thanks for engaging with me in this blog, you’re invited to Join My Community and Facebook Page where you'll have access to e-books, share and discuss finer points with like-minded and hearted others, download podcasts and receive my monthly (once a month only promise) email! OH, and p.s. when you join my community as a thank you for sharing your email, you'll receive a guide questionnaire designed to help you see how your own mind approaches  happiness, relationships, wellbeing and working life.

"We are all made of stars and carry eternity inside." Thich Nhat Hanh