Do you know how your body copes when you are stressed?
What happens to your body when you’re stressed?
I used to be guilty of separating my mind from my body ignoring everything and “getting on with it” to the detriment of my physical wellbeing.
I would literally cut my head off from my body. It’s easy really, it’s like putting your mind into a box. Shutting your self away. Do you know what I mean? Best of all it means I would Ignore any physical warning signals…
Trouble is if you continue to do this it can have a habit of backfiring, especially if you’re sick (see footnote at the end of this blog)
At the very least it will mean you’ll not have enough mental and emotional coping mechanisms when life gets tough. And it can mean you’ll experience aches and pains which eventually become chronic - back pain, stomach problems, head pain, and digestive issues leading to more serious illness. Of course, they are just the beginning. Believe me I know, I learned the hard way. But it doesn’t have to be for you.
All is not lost. You can easily integrate your body with mind benefitting from new and different ways of living life well even when life is tough.
Can you imagine what your body would say to you if you could hear it?
Here’s a typical letter from body to mind. It’s a synthesis of notes I’ve made from clients including my own’ body messages.’ Rest assured (and it’s not crazy I promise you) body can help you understand the impact on your physical wellbeing advising you a better way of managing life. Best of all you’ll be getting a tailor made diagnosis perfect for you!
FROM ME (BODY) TO YOU:
I’m tired. You don’t list to me enough. Even though you practise yoga, you run, you work out.
You never listen.
OK you do need mindfulness, you do need nature, you need to listen and sit and just be but that’s not good enough for me.
I took away your taste buds for you to listen
I suffered hip replacement, hysterectomy, colon cancer for you to listen.
You had it all
And thyroid and ulcer
Here’s what I want:
I WANT BODY FREEDOM
I want to run, I want to laugh. Be joyful and happy
It’s YOU. You who need to grieve. You who are stressed always running ahead of yourself. Always fixing. always fighting. You need to LET GO
I cannot keep up. I’m too tired.
YOU DON’T realise that I too have a brain. I’m strong. Look up Solar Plexus it’s the second brain.
You have a Stradivarius violin as a body and you don’t know how to play me. You are without a valuable string. Without me you aren’t in harmony. I bring you - as your body - I bring you mellow and joyful tones.
LISTEN to me. I know what I, therefore WE need.
Explore, discover and write and paint
Be free to do all of the above
Learn to meditate. Write and draw to express to feel to share…
Be curious. Be lively. Be easy fun and flexible. BE HAPPY PLAY Be spontaneous
I respond to nature to light and trees. You know that now. I am a flower I don’t need much ‘physical food’ and I do need the correctly balanced nutrients for me. SO LISTEN TO ME
Blueberries peanut butter chia seeds molasses what a breakfast! You’ll always know what’s right for me to eat when you listen to me because my energy level improve in minutes.
You must stop when I have fulfilment. Otherwise the energy produced from the food will need to be used to digest an overfull stomach which means your wellbeing and mental strength is depleted. See? Listen to me.
You know that more food to fill the stomach will never make you happy. Never defeat loneliness or dispel grief.
Together listening to me we will continually be in joyous harmony.
We, yes, WE are now in harmonious. We are as ONE
We are joyful together.
Playful open to the flow. In the zone.
We begin afresh from a strong foundation.
TOGETHER we move forward into the unknown . Yet it isn’t unknown. We process step by step. You will never get ahead of yourself. I promise for I am slower than your quick mind. I am your engine. i function on light, in nature. I have to be in harmony. I am of this earth. I am the vehicle for you on this earth. I need time and to process shock trauma anxiety. I react to people to environment to sound and to light.
I respond to light we all respond to light
I don’t need more physical food
You do need to listen to what I need
You’ll therefore experience greater energy and assistance from me
HOW CAN YOU INTEGRATE YOUR BODY AND MIND?
Begin with experiencing a fundamental step below first.
As you deepen your understanding allow body (by listening to it) to lead you to choosing any of the other steps. A measure will be how the relationship with your mind and your body deepens.
Good luck and enjoy! Do message or email me. Love to hear how you are getttng on with yourself. Remember it’s your life and your choice. Solve your own puzzle because you are worth it!
Write to your body. Begin by sitting in a room or a space out in nature. When you are comfortable, look around and choose another space to be where you can move your physical body. Move to that space. Sit, breathe, relax and feel your physical body. Say to yourself I am now physical I am in body. When ready, look toward where you were previously sitting and begin writing a letter from body (where you are sitting) to you in the empty chair/space.
Continue writing until ‘bod’y runs out of words. When finished, leave the paper and move back to where you were sitting. Relax once more into yourself. As you look across to where body was sitting begin writing a reply on another piece of paper.
By the end of the exercise (you can go backwards and forwards as many timesa s you want. Or, come back to the process another time) you’ll have experienced your first dialogue with your body and deepened your understanding of how your physical body relates toward you.
Choose from (in listening to body it will tell you what it needs)
Massage particularly aromatherapy massage. Learn to self massage. Do you even know how you like to be touched? What smells do you love? What is your favourite food? What do you love to look at? What sounds are music to your ear? Bathe yourself in all the things that excite your senses. Give yourself the gift of sensuality. Be slow and feel…
Reiki. Receive it and learn how to do it for yourself. A fundamental understanding of your body, your mind and emotions will inevitably follow.
Go swimming, have frequent baths, walk slowly and lightly on the ground and especially without shoes. Feel the wet earth, grass beneath your feet. Benefit from experiencing nature in its eloquence.
Stretch in the morning. Watch any animal the first thing they do is stretch as they awaken.
Hot and then cold showers. Finish with cold water. Get the body and circulation moving.
Laugh. The heart is wide open, the belly is filled with oxygen, and it is a complete cleanse for the energetic system. Laughter softens us and allows us to be more present and receptive. See every cell in your body filled with smiles, joy and laughter.
Consider all your relationships - they are wonderful teachers. Surrendering can be a gift! Instead of subscribing to the mental thought wave that I am “losing my freedom” by being in relationship, focus on gains; you’ll learn about yourself - habits, fears, and desires by being with someone. Accept we are wired to be connected with other people and other people serve as a mirror.
The feminine aspect of relationship comes when two people pay attention to the relationship’s energy instead of rushing to label it. I recently overheard a couple on a first date talking about marriage and kids. Relationships have a frequency of their own, and slowing down and tuning into that is a skill only the feminine can allow.
Take lessons in nutritious eating. We literally are what we eat. Body needs energy derived from food. Wholesome organic food. Listen to body. Experience when it is full and what it needs to be effective. Body’s nutritional needs change with the seasons, time of day alongside the level of harmony within your health and wellbeing. Consider changing your routine, I promise your body will thank you. You’ll be playing your own Stradivarius violin.
Alternate nostril breathing . This practice works directly with the right and left sides of the body and brain to cultivate harmony and mental clarity. It helps us clear blocked energy streams in the body.
Sit comfortably with a tall spine. Place your left hand on your lap, palm face up or face down. With your right hand, fold down your index and middle finger so they are gently touching the centre of your palm. Place your ring finger on your left nostril and softly close the nostril. Take a deep slow breath in through your right nostril. When the breath is full, then gently switch and release your left nostril and close off your right nostril with your thumb. Close your eyes. Take a long, slow exhale through your left nostril. When the lungs are empty, keep the hand as it is and take another deep breath in through your left nostril. When you reach the top, repeat by switching to exhale through your right. Inhale again through your right nostril, switch fingers, and exhale through your left. Repeat. Five minutes per day is all you need. When you become confident count eight as you hold a nostril, let go for eight and hold for eight.
Learn how to enter into your body. Sit in physical pain. Learn how to relax, release and let go.
Why cutting your head from your body isn’t wise when you’re sick or grieving.
If you’re trying to recover, through sickness or bereavement, cutting your head from your body only prolongs your healing.
I tried to shut off my mind after a bereavement. It took me five years to cry and a depression which lasted many more years until I finally integrated mind and body.
Here’s a typical example: recovering from illness or bereavement has a rather similar cycle where although your mind might acknowledge the diagnosis or death, your feelings cannot whilst body is tired, or sleepless or cannot stop ‘being busy and agitated.’
It doesn’t stop there either, even though the mind understand the situation; tries to organise or fix things, feelings may experience overwhelm; tears and emotion flaring up at a drop of a hat not to mention peculiar and fleeting aches or pains in your body.
One step forward then a few steps backward.
A bigger step forward then nothing. Little steps maybe? A movement by movement.
And so it goes on. Until body, mind and emotion are integrated. Everything flowing one way again…
Time is a great healer. yet time itself presses buttons.
In our 24/7 full on digital world it helps to share, offload, understand your own swinging processes as the above blog indicates. It makes sense, doesn’t it to know your own body/mind? Listen and learning about them to help you in future ups and downs.
Friends, loved ones are invaluable at this time. Yet they too, have their lives to lead. They too can experience overload when loved ones are going through challenges.
If you need signposts, want to understand how you can take back your personal power, move through the ups and downs, put together your own personal ‘sat nav’ mapping out a way forward that works for you, please know you aren’t on your own if you don’t want to be… as a Wellbeing Coach and Mentor I’d consider it an honour to support a like minded and hearted fellow traveller. There are others ‘out there’ too! Discover more about yourself and your way forward you’ll never be disappointed!
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