THREE VITAL KEYS TO UNLOCKING YOUR PERSONAL FREEDOM IN YOUR SIXTIES

 Personal Freedom and Ageing Well - you are the pattern maker and breaker of your own destiny

Personal Freedom and Ageing Well - you are the pattern maker and breaker of your own destiny

This blog first appeared on Sixty and Me Website where I am a guest blogger. 

When you think about freedom and ageing well, what pops into your mind?

Is this an oxymoron or can you step into an even greater personal power in your sixties and beyond? 

I’ve noticed a pattern to my work over the years with clients when it comes to unlocking personal freedom and ageing well. Here are the 3 top keys to freedom I have identified:

1.    Don’t worry

2.    Be True To Your Dreams

3.    It is what it is and I am what I am!

Don’t worry

Many of us worry how we’ll be when we grow older. Will we act similarly to our parents perhaps? Experience same problems and illnesses? It’s inevitable really, to worry or wonder what might or will happen to us as we enter our sixties and beyond. 

Of course, most of us are pleasantly surprised because through wisdom and experience we learn a vital freedom-rich secret, which is not to worry. That it is what it is. 

In fact, take note of this lovely Tibetan saying:

·      If you can do something about it, then why worry?

·      And if you can’t do anything about it, then why worry?

Actually, it makes sense, really, after all, it’s impossible to second-guess others. On average, we have 60,000 thoughts going around in our minds in any 24 hours, so how can we know what people are thinking about us? And, as importantly, if you really want to think about it, how many of us can discern every thought that goes around in our very own minds at any given time?

One of the ways we learn how to move into this freedom from restriction is to discern the difference between expectations to reality.

A typical one many of us experience over the years is how we juggle the balls of work and home life where we can be restricted by expectations from others as well as our own. Along the way, we worry about ‘fitting in.’ Especially if we’re climbing up the slippery and political career ladder and having time off for children.  As we aim high in our expectations we find ourselves not wanting to ’rock the boat’ after all, juggling work and home life take a particular set of expert skills!

With work and home life probably different than in our forties and fifties now’s the time to expand your freedom.

It can begin with taking your personal power back. You no longer need to walk on eggshells, worrying about what people think. In fact, if you have to worry at all, worry about where your own freedom is restricted:

·      Begin with asking for what you want. Because you are worth it.

·      After all these years it should now be about your own self-worth, living by your own set of values.

·      If you are a caring and sensitive soul, let's be very clear, it is a fact: we cannot nurture others from a dry well!

As we all move through the gateway into our sixth decade, there are vital secrets we need to know and learn to enhance our personal power enabling us to age well. One vital key is how to live in the moment, with the first step being not to worry.

This is what the Gateway into your Sixth Decade is all about: moving into a greater sense of your own self.

BE TRUE TO YOUR DREAMS

Are you following what makes your heart sing? Are you in alignment with the dreams of your earliest years?

Life has a way of taking us everywhere but where our heart really lies - in that special and sacred space where we can lose ourselves in joy, peace and creativity.

Two clients of mine recently began a new business together with a combined age (wisdom and experience) of 128 years.

Their hearts were calling to them and they wanted to revolt against the expectation that when you’re in your sixties or older, the presumption is that   work will cease, let alone the idea of setting up a new business. They told me they could identify with their childhood dreams and in opening up to them, they were experiencing a new surge of energy.  

We discussed positive role models identifying the rock and film stars from the seventies and eighties, and how many of them are challenging society’s assumption around ageing. 

I see this pattern again and again: where the working career takes a person into say, law or engineering, yet on the inside they have always been an artist – poetry, painting, writing, some form of self-expression. This is exactly how my clients were looking at their lives right now. They were honouring the artist inside of them.

When we listen to our hearts and our dreams and act upon them our payback will be more energy and vitality. My clients power of self-determination was giving them their longing for freedom to be in alignment with their childhood dreams.

It is what it is and I am what I am.

Bill Wyman of the Rolling Stones gave an interview where he said “When I reach an age where I’m unable to look after myself easily don’t assume I’ll want to be taken on outings with others of a similar age. No, I’ll want my independence to the end, marijuana on tap and any carers will need to be young, pretty and with short skirts!”  OK, so we might not all subscribe to Bill Wyman’s vision, but at least his view was a humorous one, where having fun and maintaining independence was high up on his list.  

Some countries are taking advantage of this, in what I might call a silver-revolution: Japan is experiencing a super-ageing society with over 30% of the population now over sixty years of age.   They are gearing up for this ever-growing people power aware they are performing at a higher level than those of a similar age from the 20th century. Japan may well be leading the way in terms of the freedom and the quality of independence.

What could all this mean for you and me and our personal power and freedom in our sixties and beyond?

What pops into your mind when you think of freedom and ageing well? I’m curious to hear your thoughts. Please join the conversation!


 

THINK YOURSELF INTO HAPPINESS

"Everything is possible and nothing is impossible. You are only ever limited by your mind."

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"We are all made of stars and carry eternity inside." Thich Nhat Hanh

 

 

Your freedom to imagine and dream.

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Your Gateway into your Sixth Decade and beyond is all about moving into a greater sense of your own self.

What better way to do this than to open up to your imagination and your dreams?

 
The shamans from the indigenous cultures say, when asked to cure a member of the community of their ills: “When did you stop dreaming? When was the last time you sang or danced? When did you last hear or tell a story?"
For they know that when we stop dreaming, singing, dancing, hearing or sharing stories, in other words having fun and being playful and creative.   Well, we’ve stopped truly living. We've restricted our freedom, shut down our heart and mind to anything other than day by day routine. 
We may be restricted in our actions, even in speech, yet our freedom to think and imagine are integral to being truly human. Both are free and both are accessible to you. 

Seeing the Spaces In-Between 

My life - my reality -  my take on the world really has all the answers I need. But this 24/7 world demands my time......but wait, hey, no it doesn't. I have all the time in the world!

  • I have entered the sixth decade. So I can cheerfully say I've entered it with eagerness.
  • I've stepped off the merry-go-round.

OK so some of us may be pushed or perhaps eagerly jumped into being sixty and beyond.  While others, needed help to make that all important step through the Gateway. 

When we are moving through the 40th and 50th Gateways we simply cannot see what is going on, because we are so often busy doing, busy juggling, just busy living. 

It is now, as we move through the Gateway into our Sixties and beyond we have the time and can look for the shapes in-between... 

And what do we find?

Time has spaces in between,  a minute can be a long time, an hour can go so quickly.

There are spaces in between conversations, we call them pauses, so much is said in those pauses.

The spaces in between waiting for a flight, a train journey, a dental appointment.

So-called empty spaces.

Now's the very time to reflect upon dreams from childhood.

Have you achieved them? Have you listened to them? If you would listen to them and could action upon them what would be different in your life right now? Because you see so many of us don't. 

 You really are the pattern maker and breaker of your own existence you know. Age is just a number. 

 

Meet your imagination and intuition.

Listening to your dreams, actioning upon your dreams will mean you will meet the playful and lighthearted parts of you. And they'll reawaken your own innate wisdom for joy, peace and healing.

For the next week, dedicate 10 minutes, to imagining yourself at your absolute best as a what... a comedian, performer, movie star, singer or writer...?

  • .What will you look like?
  • What will you talk about?
  • How will the audience feel about you?
  • Jot down your thoughts. Enjoy imagining yourself in something you've never imagined or thought about yourself before.  How does it feel? How do you feel? Does it light your fire? Your passion? We need passion it maintains a youthful outlook on life. We experience vitality as well as energy through passion.  

Meet with your intuitive self: your imagination and your insight, and you'll experience an alignment between your heart and mind. This is your access to your beautiful mind, your inner world, where an unlimited source of happiness, joy and vitality awaits. 


It's my wellbeing, my energy, my vitality which helps me to age well...

I can make choices: I can take back my thoughts, my mind, my feelings. I respond rather than react. I go with the flow. I don't react to triggers in the outer world.  First step? Trust in your reality and choose not to be triggered or driven by the outer world: media, culture, systems, people. 

So what can I do?

I can trust the shapes in-between.  Trust in being: in giving myself the space and time for reflection.  Understand that reflection inside my own mind guarantees greater clarity, peace and joy.

You will begin to see the spaces in-between.  In other words you will see the world through your own eyes and begin to trust in your self. 

What will happen when I do this?

You'll experience how you can rest, release, repair, reset and recharge at will and 

~ UNLIMITED SELF CONFIDENCE, ENERGY AND VITALITY ~

Now, that's worth having at any age!

 


 

THINK YOURSELF INTO HAPPINESS

"Everything is possible and nothing is impossible. You are only ever limited by your mind."

Thanks for engaging with me in this blog, you’re invited to Join My Community and Facebook Page where you'll have access to e-books, share and discuss finer points with like-minded and hearted others, download podcasts and receive my monthly (once a month only promise) email! OH, and p.s. when you join my community as a thank you for sharing your email, you'll receive a guide questionnaire designed to help you see how your own mind approaches  happiness, relationships, wellbeing and working life.

"We are all made of stars and carry eternity inside." Thich Nhat Hanh