Unlock your mindset from fear and worry

 Worry fear? UNLOCK your mindset right now!

Worry fear? UNLOCK your mindset right now!


Do you experience fear?

A threatening health issue, or life challenge perhaps.

Watching world TV alone can bring up fearful thoughts. Those ‘what if’ thoughts where in your right mind, you would immediately dismiss them, but now, a vicious cycle of overwhelm takes hold.  “Impossible! I can’t see a way through.  Where will it end?” Scream your thoughts.

But it doesn’t have to be impossible.  

What if there were ways to permanently unlock your mindset from fear?

 

Meet Honey my dog. She knows how to rise above it all.

Here’s how she spends her typical Honey Dog day:

8-noon what a lovely day: playtime, fun time, great food, I might have a snooze along the way. 

12-4 what a lovely day: walks, sniffing, peeing, people to lick, dogs to meet. 

 Honey stays in the present

Honey stays in the present

4-6 what a lovely day: on my back sleepy time, what’s to eat?

6-10 isn’t it snuggle time? What a lovely day!

10pm: wow walks again. Cuddles, what a lovely day!  

Honey’s open, happy attitude teaches me to look deeply into where I allow fear and negative thinking to colour my life. Along with an even deeper question around why can’t I permanently rise above it?  Her ability to live above and beyond my current level of thinking shows me an extra-ordinary opportunity to choose to rise above fear rather than remain its victim.

WHERE AM I? 

This true story was given to me by an emergency responder

  • Emergency team respond to heart attack.

  • Professionals and machines did everything they possible could, by the time the ambulance reached the hospital the patient was pronounced dead. 

  • After a five-minute breather, one of the team re-entered the ambulance to prepare the patient. 

  • Imagine their surprise to see the patient sitting up, pulling off wires, asking where he was and what happened? 

Explain the unexplainable

 Three people witnessed this patient dying and the same patient living. Needless to say the team agreed to tear up the paperwork and never speak of it again. Rest assured the equipment was checked thoroughly.

Whilst this story is absolutely true, how would you explain it?

 I can’t answer nor do I understand this patient’s heart attack recovery. 

What I do know is how there are many ‘extra-ordinary' stories.  I’m confident that things ‘out of the ordinary’ happen and more frequently than I imagine.  

Maybe, just maybe, I should embrace an ‘out of the ordinary’ different mindset toward fear and negative thinking? 

What this story and my dog, Honey’s way of living life have given me is a new approach toward living my own life.

  

No, it’s NOT going to happen to me!

During a routine check my optician identified a dark mass. “I’m stressed.” I said. It made sense to me that my body would reflect my stress somewhere.

The optician was doubtful but agreed to give me another test in three weeks, only to find the mark had moved to the other eye! I thought this really amusing. I explained how I was doing my best to resolve it. When stressed I could be guilty cutting my mind off from my body by ignoring everything and “ getting on with it” to the detriment of my physical wellbeing.

Three weeks later my eyes were fine.  Whilst the optician couldn’t make sense, to me, it made absolute sense.

But why and how?

  • I didn’t ask "what if” questions over what the mass in my eye might mean.

  • I didn’t enter an overwhelming emotional and mental spiral of fear. I stayed in the present, refusing to trigger past experiences or future what if thoughts.

  • I stayed in the moment listening to my body's warning signals, focussing my mind on the present. I reflected on my emotions rather than reacting to them knowing that they could easily create a negative reaction in my physical body if I allowed them to run away with fear.

  •  I gave space and time to nurture my mind, emotions, body and spirit. 

  •  I trusted my body’s innate ability to heal before reflecting harmony once more.

 

Living in the zone

Have you ever said  “It won’t happen to me” knowing perfectly well in your heart of hearts that no, it really won’t happen to you? 

That’s what happened to me with the optician. 

I’ve not always followed my good sense.  

I experienced a minor stroke.  Down I went into fear mode.   Through fear I went into overwhelm trying to fix it with my mind, forgetting the body needed time to process the shock and to heal.

So what’s different now? 

·       I’m in a different frame of mind. I’ve risen above fear. My body is relaxed I am relaxed. It’s nothing personal and I’m not buying into any “what if.” 

·       No, it’s not going to happen again. NO I’m not going to buy into “I can’t do this or that.”  I know, somehow I just know that it won’t happen again.   You know that feeling? Somehow you simply know it’s ok. It is not going to happen

In the Zone – going with the flow of life

 There have been times (I’m sure you’ve experienced this too) where I’ve said to myself  “This  feels so right, I know it’s going to work.” Or I’ve felt it in my guts – an instinct - that all is ok.

These feelings are natural. We need to realise they’re part of being a whole human being. They aren’t extra-ordinary they’re more common than you think. 

Sports stars call it being in the zone. Everything  flowing one way.  You don’t know why and it just is. We’ve all done it, haven’t we? Where the day just flows. Whatever you do, wherever you go, all augurs well.

Colin Wilson and Abraham Maslow call it the Peak Experience. IT IS OUR RIGHTFUL HUMAN EXPERIENCE

 

Why can’t I be in the zone all the time?

The answer is you can!

Trust these experiences are normal. Tap into them daily, they’re yours to use at will so that when fear arises in your life you’ll naturally rise above continuing in the flow of abundant life, activating free flowing thoughts and mindful action rather than floundering in victim mode. 

Think yourself into a wholesome frame of mind. It doesn’t have to be impossible. Who says it’s impossible? You’ve a choice. And I choose to be a wholesome human being.  Care to join me?  

And if you are asking is it worth it

Is it worth unlocking your mindset from being a victim of fear worry and anxiety?  Living life extra-ordinarily? 

 I can think of hundreds of reasons, here’s three to be getting on with:

  • I know its healthier for me to live with a glass half full perspective rather than half empty.

  • I know its healthier for me to be open to playfulness, spontaneity and joy like Honey

  • I know it’s healthier for me and for the rest of the world if I live from this wholesome frame of mind. After all, laugh and the world laughs with you cry and you cry alone.


Co-incidences and strange occurrences, not to mention out-of-the-ordinary experiences are so much more common than we fully accept and live by.  

Rather than explain it away as something extraordinary why not rise up into a new and wholesome frame of mind? One where the impossibility becomes possible? Day after day after day! 

Go on - you’re worth it!

Do you have an extra-ordinary story to share? I’d love to hear from you.

All is Possible and Nothing is Impossible

THINK YOURSELF INTO HAPPINESS

"Everything is possible and nothing is impossible. You are only ever limited by your mind."

Thanks for engaging with me in this blog you’re invited to Join My Community and Facebook Page where you'll have access to e-books, share and discuss finer points with like-minded and hearted others, download podcasts and receive my monthly (once a month only promise) email! OH, and p.s. when you join my community as a thank you for sharing your email, you'll receive a guide questionnaire designed to help you see how your own mind approaches  happiness, relationships, wellbeing and working life.

"We are all made of stars and carry eternity inside." Thich Nhat Hanh

Ann Tanmayi

INTRODUCING YOU TO YOUR BEAUTIFUL MIND WITH ANN TANMAYI


 

 

 

How to Meditate: I'll handle tomorrow well if I stay in the Present

 How to Meditate - I’ll handle tomorrow well if I stay in the present

How to Meditate - I’ll handle tomorrow well if I stay in the present



What is it like to be fully present?

"My perception, my understanding is greater. It's as though I can see round corners! There are many possibilities. I can see, I can absorb and I’m not overwhelmed. My mind is not busy, nor am I spaced out."

"My mind is still, like a clear pool. Perfectly crystal clear. I am fully present. Yes, it’s a gift to be in my present. I see that now. Everything is crystal clear. I can see all. Now I attend to my life so differently."




Essentially, I am talking about my Self. 'My real Self.' Devoid of all (chattering monkey) thoughts, the 'what ifs' and 'what else could I do?' and 'what else I need to do?'

I am talking about attending with one-pointed focus to the challenge in hand, in the present. Rather than living in the past (what haven't I done) or in the future (there's still so much to do).

I am attending to my present. And, yes, it might well be seen as a gift.

Contrary to what you might believe, we all have this gift. It just takes focus and commitment.

A One-point focussed mind: No Chattering Monkey Thoughts

"All thoughts of blame ( blaming someone or something else) are gone. I am in control. It is me. It is not about anyone else. I'm not pushing against any tide, any person and any system. I am not pre-empting problems ( the 'what if' syndrome) instead, I am attentive to all and everything in that specific moment. I slip through into another space. Another dimension. Yet I’m still functioning."

It took me a long long while before I could see the joke: that within the moment is my present. At that moment, I have everything. A cosmic gift!

So why can't I stay in my present? What is stopping me? Blocking me?

Ah ha! What is left is ME :-) My own stuff.

This can include some or all of the following: negative self-beliefs ( some of those I put there, some of them are from previous partners, experiences, jobs and childhood) and my own lingering fears and false beliefs, maybe  disappointment for unfulfilled dreams and expectation to reality, grief, anger…

Here's my experience: I found committing myself to me, giving myself the time and the space to move through my busy world into a space of stillness and learning to be 'in the moment' harrowing. I experienced it as challenging and frustrating too.

First it was harrowing because I couldn't do it and I didn't know how to begin. The thoughts (of which I believed I had no control) were enormous and overwhelming. They consumed me and my day and my behaviour toward others. And that was harrowing for me. I realised that to handle my thousands of thoughts I had to watch my emotions, my feelings. For often they would trigger thoughts and reactions.

Further into my quest to stay 'in the moment,' the challenges were fast and furious, often overwhelming. As I explored and practised, I found myself slipping into past patterns. Of course, it was great that I could see I was experiencing past patterns because

a) it meant I was observing myself

b) I was being honest with myself and

c) I could do something about it. I could ask myself "Do these past patterns serve me well now? And if not, I need to do something about them in order to move on." I was willing to move through my blocks. People who don't like change, please take note, look honestly at yourself and ask yourself whether not liking or not coping well with change is blocking you moving on in your life. This may well be your first 'pro-active' step to handling all of your tomorrows!

Often I would find myself even more overwhelmed than I was in the first place. I explain this now, by saying it is rather like a see-saw: there are days when one feels great, many small steps forward have been achieved. There are also days when nothing happens or, even worse, hundreds or even thousands of steps backwards are experienced. Eventually, the see-saw swinging reduces. It evens out, a plateau is reached. Calmness steps in. It is then one can appreciate stillness. And want to stay in it. In fact, to crave it. It is not frightening, it is loving, peaceful and so powerful, so very still and pregnant with potential.

I've talked about my journey to stay 'in the moment' as being harrowing and challenging. For me, there was frustration too. This is where although I'm on the path, would not want to be on any other path, and I can stay in the present some if not most of the time, I'm frustrated because I slip out of it! The frustration, I know, is there to tell me I need to go further, I haven't loosened enough of myself. I haven't freed up enough of the expectations I put on myself to just BE. And then, somehow it just happened...I lost the frustration. Instead, what do I now do? I smile. I'm not hard to myself anymore. I'm just me. And I don't have expectations of others. I've unlocked another door on my journey to come home to my Self. I simply laugh at myself. I can't begin to tell you how freeing that is! Yes, I continue to feel relaxed and move through the awareness that I've slipped from staying 'in the moment' and it is ok!

Remembering What You Have Forgotten

Please believe me when I say there is NO one way, one tool, one training that can ensure you will remain in the present.

Mindfulness is the current 'magical' tool. And will serve many very well. Yet staying in the moment requires all of our intelligences: we function on many levels through our mind, our body, our emotions, our intuition and our spiritual selves. We have five senses: sound, touch, taste, seeing and smell. All communicate information requiring us to absorb and integrate. In fact, a sound can transport us to another time, another place, as can a smell or a picture.

Paying attention and staying in the moment asks us to dissolve all. Asks us to detach, rather than block or hold onto thoughts, emotions, memories. Instead, to function with free flowing thoughts and mindful action.

The ability to:

  • relax

  • to ease tension in the body and the mind

  • to be able to step back, separate fact from emotion

  • learn to respond rather than react, are all part of the process of staying in the moment.

Just imagine what it could be like for you?

"It happens ...occasionally..it happens... up bubbles the gifts...an original thought...an ah ha moment....a bubble of pure bliss....of joy.....the right action to take 'a deep knowing' .....the one angle I had forgotten to look at. All the while I am relaxed, without tension. I might be getting on with my day, or attending slowly and methodically with great attention to the small things in life. What is gradually happening, is that I'm experiencing the deep still crystal clear waters are sustaining me...continually sustaining me....connecting me to everything in this world: to you, to me and beyond...an ineffable Source" '

"It makes living so much lighter. It makes work so much easier."

How does staying in the moment help me in my tomorrows?

Well, if it is not obvious by now... You'll be calm, clear and always resourceful. Might that help at work? Home? Generally, in your life?

OH and by the way, the added benefit that always comes from clearing out your thoughts and negativity is authenticity.

'When I loved my self enough I realised that only when I am feeling and acting lovingly did others respond lovingly.'



All is Possible and Nothing is Impossible

THINK YOURSELF INTO HAPPINESS

"Everything is possible and nothing is impossible. You are only ever limited by your mind."

Thanks for engaging with me in this podcast, you’re invited to Join My Community and Facebook Page where you'll have access to e-books, share and discuss finer points with like-minded and hearted others, download podcasts and receive my monthly (once a month only promise) email! OH, and p.s. when you join my community as a thank you for sharing your email, you'll receive a guide questionnaire designed to help you see how your own mind approaches  happiness, relationships, wellbeing and working life.

"We are all made of stars and carry eternity inside." Thich Nhat Hanh

Ann Tanmayi

INTRODUCING YOU TO YOUR BEAUTIFUL MIND, BODY, SPIRIT WITH ANN TANMAYI



Do you cut your mind off from your body?

Do you know how your body copes when you are stressed?

 Can you cut off your mind from your body?

Can you cut off your mind from your body?

What happens to your body when you’re stressed?

I used to be guilty of separating my mind from my body ignoring everything and “getting on with it” to the detriment of my physical wellbeing.

I would literally cut my head off from my body. It’s easy really, it’s like putting your mind into a box. Shutting your self away. Do you know what I mean? Best of all it means I would Ignore any physical warning signals…

Trouble is if you continue to do this it can have a habit of backfiring, especially if you’re sick (see footnote at the end of this blog)

At the very least it will mean you’ll not have enough mental and emotional coping mechanisms when life gets tough. And it can mean you’ll experience aches and pains which eventually become chronic - back pain, stomach problems, head pain, and digestive issues leading to more serious illness. Of course, they are just the beginning. Believe me I know, I learned the hard way. But it doesn’t have to be for you.

All is not lost. You can easily integrate your body with mind benefitting from new and different ways of living life well even when life is tough.

Can you imagine what your body would say to you if you could hear it?

Here’s a typical letter from body to mind. It’s a synthesis of notes I’ve made from clients including my own’ body messages.’ Rest assured (and it’s not crazy I promise you) body can help you understand the impact on your physical wellbeing advising you a better way of managing life. Best of all you’ll be getting a tailor made diagnosis perfect for you!

FROM ME (BODY) TO YOU:

I’m tired. You don’t list to me enough. Even though you practise yoga, you run, you work out.

You never listen.

OK you do need mindfulness, you do need nature, you need to listen and sit and just be but that’s not good enough for me.

I took away your taste buds for you to listen

I suffered hip replacement, hysterectomy, colon cancer for you to listen.

You had it all

And thyroid and ulcer

Here’s what I want:

  • I WANT BODY FREEDOM

  • I want to run, I want to laugh. Be joyful and happy

  • It’s YOU. You who need to grieve. You who are stressed always running ahead of yourself. Always fixing. always fighting. You need to LET GO

  • I cannot keep up. I’m too tired.

  • YOU DON’T realise that I too have a brain. I’m strong. Look up Solar Plexus it’s the second brain.

  • You have a Stradivarius violin as a body and you don’t know how to play me. You are without a valuable string. Without me you aren’t in harmony. I bring you - as your body - I bring you mellow and joyful tones.

LISTEN to me. I know what I, therefore WE need.

  • Explore, discover and write and paint

  • Be free to do all of the above

  • Learn to meditate. Write and draw to express to feel to share…

  • Be curious. Be lively. Be easy fun and flexible. BE HAPPY PLAY Be spontaneous

  • I respond to nature to light and trees. You know that now. I am a flower I don’t need much ‘physical food’ and I do need the correctly balanced nutrients for me. SO LISTEN TO ME

Blueberries peanut butter chia seeds molasses what a breakfast! You’ll always know what’s right for me to eat when you listen to me because my energy level improve in minutes.

You must stop when I have fulfilment. Otherwise the energy produced from the food will need to be used to digest an overfull stomach which means your wellbeing and mental strength is depleted. See? Listen to me.

You know that more food to fill the stomach will never make you happy. Never defeat loneliness or dispel grief.

Together listening to me we will continually be in joyous harmony.

We, yes, WE are now in harmonious. We are as ONE

We are joyful together.

Playful open to the flow. In the zone.

We begin afresh from a strong foundation.

TOGETHER we move forward into the unknown . Yet it isn’t unknown. We process step by step. You will never get ahead of yourself. I promise for I am slower than your quick mind. I am your engine. i function on light, in nature. I have to be in harmony. I am of this earth. I am the vehicle for you on this earth. I need time and to process shock trauma anxiety. I react to people to environment to sound and to light.

I respond to light we all respond to light

I don’t need more physical food

You do need to listen to what I need

You’ll therefore experience greater energy and assistance from me

 Solve your own Puzzle!

Solve your own Puzzle!


HOW CAN YOU INTEGRATE YOUR BODY AND MIND?

Begin with experiencing a fundamental step below first.

As you deepen your understanding allow body (by listening to it) to lead you to choosing any of the other steps. A measure will be how the relationship with your mind and your body deepens.

Good luck and enjoy! Do message or email me. Love to hear how you are getttng on with yourself. Remember it’s your life and your choice. Solve your own puzzle because you are worth it!




FUNDAMENTAL STEP

Step One

  1. Write to your body. Begin by sitting in a room or a space out in nature. When you are comfortable, look around and choose another space to be where you can move your physical body. Move to that space. Sit, breathe, relax and feel your physical body. Say to yourself I am now physical I am in body. When ready, look toward where you were previously sitting and begin writing a letter from body (where you are sitting) to you in the empty chair/space.

  2. Continue writing until ‘bod’y runs out of words. When finished, leave the paper and move back to where you were sitting. Relax once more into yourself. As you look across to where body was sitting begin writing a reply on another piece of paper.

  3. By the end of the exercise (you can go backwards and forwards as many timesa s you want. Or, come back to the process another time) you’ll have experienced your first dialogue with your body and deepened your understanding of how your physical body relates toward you.

Choose from (in listening to body it will tell you what it needs)

  1. Massage particularly aromatherapy massage. Learn to self massage. Do you even know how you like to be touched? What smells do you love? What is your favourite food? What do you love to look at? What sounds are music to your ear? Bathe yourself in all the things that excite your senses. Give yourself the gift of sensuality. Be slow and feel…

  2. Reiki. Receive it and learn how to do it for yourself. A fundamental understanding of your body, your mind and emotions will inevitably follow.

  3. Go swimming, have frequent baths, walk slowly and lightly on the ground and especially without shoes. Feel the wet earth, grass beneath your feet. Benefit from experiencing nature in its eloquence.

  4. Stretch in the morning. Watch any animal the first thing they do is stretch as they awaken.

  5. Hot and then cold showers. Finish with cold water. Get the body and circulation moving.

  6.  Laugh. The heart is wide open, the belly is filled with oxygen, and it is a complete cleanse for the energetic system. Laughter softens us and allows us to be more present and receptive. See every cell in your body filled with smiles, joy and laughter.

  7. Consider all your relationships - they are wonderful teachers. Surrendering can be a gift! Instead of subscribing to the mental thought wave that I am “losing my freedom” by being in relationship, focus on gains; you’ll learn about yourself - habits, fears, and desires by being with someone. Accept we are wired to be connected with other people and other people serve as a mirror.

    The feminine aspect of relationship comes when two people pay attention to the relationship’s energy instead of rushing to label it. I recently overheard a couple on a first date talking about marriage and kids. Relationships have a frequency of their own, and slowing down and tuning into that is a skill only the feminine can allow.

  8. Take lessons in nutritious eating. We literally are what we eat. Body needs energy derived from food. Wholesome organic food. Listen to body. Experience when it is full and what it needs to be effective. Body’s nutritional needs change with the seasons, time of day alongside the level of harmony within your health and wellbeing. Consider changing your routine, I promise your body will thank you. You’ll be playing your own Stradivarius violin.

  9. Alternate nostril breathing . This practice works directly with the right and left sides of the body and brain to cultivate harmony and mental clarity. It helps us clear blocked energy streams in the body.

    Directions:
    Sit comfortably with a tall spine. Place your left hand on your lap, palm face up or face down. With your right hand, fold down your index and middle finger so they are gently touching the centre of your palm. Place your ring finger on your left nostril and softly close the nostril. Take a deep slow breath in through your right nostril. When the breath is full, then gently switch and release your left nostril and close off your right nostril with your thumb. Close your eyes. Take a long, slow exhale through your left nostril. When the lungs are empty, keep the hand as it is and take another deep breath in through your left nostril. When you reach the top, repeat by switching to exhale through your right. Inhale again through your right nostril, switch fingers, and exhale through your left. Repeat. Five minutes per day is all you need. When you become confident count eight as you hold a nostril, let go for eight and hold for eight.

  10. Learn how to enter into your body. Sit in physical pain. Learn how to relax, release and let go.

  11. Meditate and here’s why

Why cutting your head from your body isn’t wise when you’re sick or grieving.

If you’re trying to recover, through sickness or bereavement, cutting your head from your body only prolongs your healing.

I tried to shut off my mind after a bereavement. It took me five years to cry and a depression which lasted many more years until I finally integrated mind and body.

Here’s a typical example: recovering from illness or bereavement has a rather similar cycle where although your mind might acknowledge the diagnosis or death, your feelings cannot whilst body is tired, or sleepless or cannot stop ‘being busy and agitated.’

It doesn’t stop there either, even though the mind understand the situation; tries to organise or fix things, feelings may experience overwhelm; tears and emotion flaring up at a drop of a hat not to mention peculiar and fleeting aches or pains in your body.

One step forward then a few steps backward.

A bigger step forward then nothing. Little steps maybe? A movement by movement.

And so it goes on. Until body, mind and emotion are integrated. Everything flowing one way again…

Time is a great healer. yet time itself presses buttons.

In our 24/7 full on digital world it helps to share, offload, understand your own swinging processes as the above blog indicates. It makes sense, doesn’t it to know your own body/mind? Listen and learning about them to help you in future ups and downs.

Friends, loved ones are invaluable at this time. Yet they too, have their lives to lead. They too can experience overload when loved ones are going through challenges.

If you need signposts, want to understand how you can take back your personal power, move through the ups and downs, put together your own personal ‘sat nav’ mapping out a way forward that works for you, please know you aren’t on your own if you don’t want to be… as a Wellbeing Coach and Mentor I’d consider it an honour to support a like minded and hearted fellow traveller. There are others ‘out there’ too! Discover more about yourself and your way forward you’ll never be disappointed!

 

THINK YOURSELF INTO HAPPINESS

"Everything is possible and nothing is impossible. You are only ever limited by your mind."


Thanks for engaging with me in this podcast, you’re invited to Join My Community and Facebook Page where you'll have access to e-books, share and discuss finer points with like-minded and hearted others, download podcasts and receive my monthly (once a month only promise) email! OH, and p.s. when you join my community as a thank you for sharing your email, you'll receive a guide questionnaire designed to help you see how your own mind approaches  happiness, relationships, wellbeing and working life.

"We are all made of stars and carry eternity inside." Thich Nhat Hanh


Ann Tanmayi

INTRODUCING YOU TO YOUR BEAUTIFUL MIND, BODY, SPIRIT WITH ANN TANMAYI















Dreams or Goals? Which one leads to sustained happiness?

Most of us are familiar with goals and goal making.

Dreams, however, reach deeper into our psyche.

For many, goal setting is an integral part of achieving success, but do we consider whether we achieve sustained freedom, fun, happiness and passion through setting goals?

As we age new goals are begun or older ones reviewed due to changes in circumstance - mid-life career change, personal or family issues, ill-health, divorce, bereavement. 

Many people swear by setting goals, yet for some, it's a challenge to maintain continued enthusiasm and motivation and here's why:

We’ve all set one goal or another at the beginning of the New Year, for example, haven’t we? We’ve followed it, but somehow - without any idea why - we find that the motivation, well, it just dips and dies - and guess what - the goal dies along with it!

Dreams, however, reach deeper into our psyche. They are with us right from birth, activating something far beyond our everyday life.

Dreaming our lives into being and achieving sustained happiness, peace and freedom. 

If we choose to birth our dreams into everyday reality, we’ll have no problem in maintaining motivation.  We tap into our passion, our reason for being, which means we will achieve all we set out to achieve.  There's an added bonus too, because we’ll collect vitality along the way.

"I've been an engineer all my life, but inside I'm an artist."

At 84 this gentleman - we will call him Gary -  is now living out his childhood dream.  As a youngster his whole world was devoted to nature and to drawing and painting; however, his parents had other ideas for him in the everyday outer and material world:  they encouraged him away from art and creativity and toward a career in engineering. "You'll always have a job, regular income." They said. 

If you measure a successful life by material means, he was successful. However, when asked was he happy throughout his working life the answer was negative. He yearned for the creativity and freedom of the world of the artist, he was lonely inside himself. Yes he had a wife and children, yes he had regular income. And no his heart wasn't singing. He was doing his duty. Nothing wrong with that, as many of us know. And how many of us, at sometime in our lives say "I wish I had kept doing that, or I have always wanted to do that myself." Of course, Gary dabbled a bit as a hobby. But for him, that wasn't enough. He wasn't living it daily, stretching his mind, his fear and creativity, natural to us all, but often repressed by many of us.  Yet in his words: "I couldn't disappoint my family, it was expected"

 "I am free and at long last at peace." 

At the age of 74, he re-activated his love for art by teaching himself how to paint.   His incredible eye for detail served him well, with his copies of Grand Masters receiving high praise. 

Freedom ~ Purpose and Passion at 84

What a difference!  This man shone with vitality. He was in touch with the true meaning of his life. And now? He is very much alive!  A respected artist at 84 years of age.  He was at pains to say that for him, age was merely a number because in his mind he was in touch with something much more significant than himself. Of course, he was, he was fulfilling his childhood dream!  Consequently, his mindset, behaviour and outlook on life were full of fun, freedom and fulfilment.  

Not a bad accolade to live by don’t you agree?

Follow your happiness gene

Contrary to what you might think, our world isn’t frozen in time, nor is life linear.

In the world of dreams its common to receive flashbacks - fragments to events from our dim and distant past.  Dreams have a habit of bringing forward events that seem jumbled up.  Long lost and forgotten hazy days in our childhood perhaps where we had not a care in our mind. Events occur into and out of existence. Our conscious memories only remember a minimal amount of all and everything we have experienced.

Imaginary Friends

In childhood many of us enjoyed living in our dream world, accessing all sorts of what parents might call ‘imaginary friends.’ I had a friend who was with me from the age of three until I was around six years old. He was a young monk in a monastery high up in the Tibetan Himalayas. I met him in ‘my everyday reality’ 50 years later. You can read my story here.

Have you continued dreaming in your adult years? Do you act upon them? As an adult, it can be helpful to 'access' our dreams and ground them in our everyday world.

Dreams give us access to vitality and passion, integral to living and ageing well.

They teach us how to listen to the inside of our beautiful mind as opposed to continually living in our outer world - an often demanding, stressful and full on 24/7 technological world.

 When did you stop dreaming?

The Shamans from the indigenous cultures say when asked to cure a member of the community of their ills:  “When did you stop dreaming?”

The Shamans know that when we stop dreaming, singing, dancing, share stories using our imagination, in other words, being playful and creative and having fun, we’ve stopped living the authentic life as a human being. Instead, we've restricted our freedom, shutting down our heart and mind to anything other than day-by-day routine. 

Just imagine what might happen if you turned your attention inside your own beautiful mind, listened to your dreams and acted upon them?  

Do you listen to the world you inhabit when you are asleep? Many 'old' civilisations maintain you are awake when you are dreaming...

I did. You can read my story here

 You can dream your life into being by living on the inside where  Fun ~ freedom ~ purpose ~ passion ~ happiness resides.  Let's all choose to live from that answer!


 

THINK YOURSELF INTO HAPPINESS

"Everything is possible and nothing is impossible. You are only ever limited by your mind."

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"We are all made of stars and carry eternity inside." Thich Nhat Hanh

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Dreaming my life into being

Many ancient cultures suggest we are awake when we are dreaming; they see our 'everyday reality waking moments' as being asleep whilst they maintain we are truly awake when we are dreaming! 

    Meet my 'imaginary friend'

    My parents used to call him my imaginary friend, I called him Nanka. 

    He was a young monk in a monastery high up in the Tibetan Himalayas. Although at the time I had no idea he was a monk, or where in the world he existed.  Each time I visited him - or did he visit me - anyway, I distinctly to this day, recall him always wearing a rough red woollen draped clothing around his body. He was continually hoiking one part or another of it back around his shoulders.  The most distinct thing I recall was his face because he was always cheerful and smiling, I couldn't stop myself from feeling happy in his presence. 

    He lived in a tall bleak stone building high up in the mountains. I know that for a fact because we would often hang out through the open slits for windows where he would point out to me the shapes in the snow. At this point, I need to say we were not physically speaking with each other. Rather, I intuitively knew what he was saying. Now how could that occur at that tender age?

    It's probably best I let you know now that I’ve been searching since I was three years old.  You see even at that tender age,  I remembered an existence in Tibet, although I had no idea then, it was Tibet. It was just a place full of snow. 

    I would recall my tales to my parents describing Nanka in the land of snows. They humoured me.  It felt, at the time, I was living a parallel existence.  

    What I did experience every time I met with Nanka was such an inner peace and light-heartedness. I had a soul brother! He understood my frustration. Reflecting now, I see he was here to help me to retain a semblance of balance in my life. 

    You see, my first memory was in my pram (actually it wasn't my first memory, that was my physical birth  but perhaps that can wait for another blog and another time.) No, my memory in my pram was one of frustration. Here I am staring out of the pram unable to see much and feeling trapped. Of course, I was, I was wrapped up in blankets. I wanted to fly, to share my happiness. But as I grew into toddling and walking, began school (at the age of three by the way) I realised not many shared my happiness and joy.  To be fair, it was the late fifties; rationing had just ended, people were grey, tired and frightened. Here was I happy, bouncing, questioning everything, wanting to hug everything and everyone! I must have been a real pain in the ***!

    I always knew I was missing something. Much to my parent’s frustration and two years on into my schooling, at the tender age of 5-ish, I would say to them “There has to be more to life than this!” This longing has been the fire that has burned in my heart all my life. My lifelong passion has been the search to remember what I’d forgotten and to come home.

    I was always asking why?

    You see, to my mind, I wanted to live in a place where I could be free.  You can imagine why Nanka meant so much to me living in the wild in the land of snows where the sun always shone brightly.  For many years I had no idea what freedom meant, all I knew was that the life I was living was grey, serious, judgmental and cold. I wanted to live in a place of colour, light and happiness. 

    Nanka helped me to maintain my passion by showing me the spaces in-between. We began with the sky and the mountains. I learned how to look for shapes, to discern colour in the white mountains, see the pink, grey, silver and mauve slivers of light, watch the shadows morph into shape upon shape. It wasn't until many years later did I put all my observation and learning into practice, to enable me to look for answers, see beneath and beyond what people say and do. I refused to see anything at face value, to question and above all trust the symbols all around me, especially in nature. Finally of course to dream, to use my dream time to obtain answers.

     Nanka 'my Tibetan' taught me humour and joy, to look for the funnier side of life.  A merciful gift to me as life began to take a grey turn, leading to me shutting away from my dream world entering instead a world of criticism, negativity and authority. Needless to say, I rebelled, continued to question, battled authority, as best as I could, given I was a young woman in a middle-class household dominated by stern parents. 

    Dreaming my life into being

    It can take courage to enter into our imagination and activate our dreams because they can seem to be counter-intuitive.  For me, living on the inside, paying attention to my own mind, my own sense of self, was perfectly natural. Consequently forty or so years later I began to remember what I had forgotten.

    I had flashbacks of memories in my dreams and I acted upon them.

    I learned how to remember what I had forgotten about being human through shamanic training, dream work and Reiki. I travelled to many distant countries, studied their culture and spiritual teachings.

    Ancient symbols and texts would jump out to me. I'd find myself going into ecstasy, meditating for days, writing and writing. I experienced myself in, well, a different world.

    You and I live in a world of our own

    Yet this isn't strange really, because we are all in our own little world. Of course, we are!

    For anyone reading this who might be disagreeing, reflect upon if you witnessed a car accident and the traffic police asked you to recall the accident.  Be rest assured your perception will be different from every other person! Our perspective is ours and ours alone.

    Isn't that so beautiful?

    It's wise to continually remind yourself:

    I am the pattern maker and breaker of my own reality
     My potential and my future are dependent upon the choices I make right now.
    How I think and feel directly affects my future. 

    Back to Nanka.  I met him fifty years later!  True! Well not him exactly and yes, I did meet him.  Let me explain.

    I was enjoying an exhibition by the Tashi Lhunpo Monks who travel around the UK USA and Europe demonstrating their culture through dance, debates, mandalas and meditation. I was thumbing through their monks 'handbook' pics and biogs of the hundreds of monks at the monastery and I saw him! Initially, I I just knew I knew him, but I didn't know him - if you understand me!

    A few days later the dreams began. It was Nanka! I remembered my experiences in the snows with the little Tibetan boy.  Of course, now he is a mature monk exiled in the Tashi Lhunpo monastery in Karnataka where they settled. 

     A couple of years later I had the opportunity to visit his monastery. 

     Tasche Lhumpo Monastery Christmas 2016

    Tasche Lhumpo Monastery Christmas 2016

    Christmas 2016

    His Holiness The Dalai Lama was giving Teachings for three weeks. I just had to go. Nanka (I won't give his Tibetan name here if you don't mind) was serving His Holiness. Despite that, I managed to give him a message. I asked him to say my name in the presence of His Holiness. Well something must have occurred, because even though there were 30,000 monks in attendance, I managed to sit less than 12 feet away from His Holiness for the duration of his teachings! Not only that but I was invited along with 12 other Westerners to serve His Holiness on the last day. Can you imagine? All I can say is that when I walked through the multitudes toward His Holiness as He sat inbetween two Buddhas all I could see was the sun. A huge yellow radiant orb! We were each holding ancient Tibetan scriptures covered in red silk, these books were hundreds and hundreds of years old. Afterwards Tibetans would want to touch me for good luck having held them. What a day! And not only that ...but as if to prove the connection two American ladies I met during the conference had the honour of meeting Nanka (he is part of the spiritual teachers training the monks) and His Holiness. As you can imagine I asked for a description. They said he was very serious and how everyone respected him very deeply. What a contrast to the happy laughing friend of yesteryear. Yet I felt a pang of identity because for so many years in my 'grey period' I became very serious, taking my duties as a teacher of Reiki, shamanic healing, Bach remedies counselling soberly. I wrote another note wishing him well, thanking him for meeting His Holiness and hoping he can now relax now that the year-long preparations were nearly over. 

     Along with 12 other westerners I had to walk down the aisle carrying these precious books toward The Dalai Lama sitting on the dais amidst the sacred chanting and horns blowing. awesome just awesome!

    Along with 12 other westerners I had to walk down the aisle carrying these precious books toward The Dalai Lama sitting on the dais amidst the sacred chanting and horns blowing. awesome just awesome!

     

    Back to the moment

    Dreams open us up to our imagination which is an inherent skill many of us use too sparingly. It was through my sleeping in my very early years I met Nanka. Many years later my dreams were fulfilled. 

    My life journey has been a quest to go home. I witnessed inner peace and light- heartedness in the Tibetan boy. I wanted that too.  Where people didn’t judge me, where I didn’t have to struggle with expectations from others, with people who did not or would not understand me. A world where people would open their eyes to opportunities, see the positive rather than the negative and go with the flow. I wanted to stop saying to myself that ‘there has to be more to life than this.’ And I wanted to move from living in a world where fighting, money and power seemed to take precedence over peace, harmony and oneness. I wanted a world where free flowing thoughts and mindful action led the way.

    Instead of living outside of myself, where life would happen to me, I’ve learned how to live on the inside, in my own reality in my own Beautiful Mind where life flows and happens for me.

    I had to change my relationship with myself: I’ve learned that the greatest relationship I’ll ever have is with myself,  and how it underpins everything.

    I understand that I, alone, am the pattern maker and breaker of my existence. I have activated the whole of me for the whole of my life. And I live from that answer.

    Would you like to live in your own Beautiful Mind?

    Begin with building in reflection time

    Move your attention from the outside world into your own inner world. 

    It can be easy to zig-zag through life, maybe find ourselves on paths chosen for us by others.  Nevertheless we can prevent this by building in space for reflection.

    Reflection helps us review ‘Where we are now  (where we have been) and   where we are going.’

    Reflection helps us to turn attention back onto our Beautiful Mind, our inner world, where we can remember what we might have forgotten about what makes our heart really sing.

    Here are four reasons why reflection will help you:

    ·      It gives you space to step out of your everyday reality and look at a myriad of choices. After all, you are the pattern maker and breaker of your own destiny.

    ·      Reflection is vital whenever you find yourself at a crossroad or times of change.  

    ·       As you move through the inevitable Gateways of Age 50th, 60th, 70th and so on ask yourself are you in touch with your dreams?

    ·      Whenever you feel unhappy, take yourself off to reflect.

    Imagine how you’ll feel if you listen to your dreams and acted upon them? Where you're in touch with something or someone who helps you to make your heart sing?  

    Begin to look for the spaces inbetween trust in your inner world and learn how to RELEASE REFLECT and REPAIR

     

     

    THINK YOURSELF INTO HAPPINESS

    "Everything is possible and nothing is impossible. You are only ever limited by your mind."

    Thanks for engaging with me in this blog, you’re invited to Join My Community and Facebook Page where you'll have access to e-books, share and discuss finer points with like-minded and hearted others, download podcasts and receive my monthly (once a month only promise) email! OH, and p.s. when you join my community as a thank you for sharing your email, you'll receive a guide questionnaire designed to help you see how your own mind approaches  happiness, relationships, wellbeing and working life.

    "We are all made of stars and carry eternity inside." Thich Nhat Hanh

     

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    THREE VITAL KEYS TO UNLOCKING YOUR PERSONAL FREEDOM IN YOUR SIXTIES

     Personal Freedom and Ageing Well - you are the pattern maker and breaker of your own destiny

    Personal Freedom and Ageing Well - you are the pattern maker and breaker of your own destiny

    This blog first appeared on Sixty and Me Website where I am a guest blogger. 

    When you think about freedom and ageing well, what pops into your mind?

    Is this an oxymoron or can you step into an even greater personal power in your sixties and beyond? 

    I’ve noticed a pattern to my work over the years with clients when it comes to unlocking personal freedom and ageing well. Here are the 3 top keys to freedom I have identified:

    1.    Don’t worry

    2.    Be True To Your Dreams

    3.    It is what it is and I am what I am!

    Don’t worry

    Many of us worry how we’ll be when we grow older. Will we act similarly to our parents perhaps? Experience same problems and illnesses? It’s inevitable really, to worry or wonder what might or will happen to us as we enter our sixties and beyond. 

    Of course, most of us are pleasantly surprised because through wisdom and experience we learn a vital freedom-rich secret, which is not to worry. That it is what it is. 

    In fact, take note of this lovely Tibetan saying:

    ·      If you can do something about it, then why worry?

    ·      And if you can’t do anything about it, then why worry?

    Actually, it makes sense, really, after all, it’s impossible to second-guess others. On average, we have 60,000 thoughts going around in our minds in any 24 hours, so how can we know what people are thinking about us? And, as importantly, if you really want to think about it, how many of us can discern every thought that goes around in our very own minds at any given time?

    One of the ways we learn how to move into this freedom from restriction is to discern the difference between expectations to reality.

    A typical one many of us experience over the years is how we juggle the balls of work and home life where we can be restricted by expectations from others as well as our own. Along the way, we worry about ‘fitting in.’ Especially if we’re climbing up the slippery and political career ladder and having time off for children.  As we aim high in our expectations we find ourselves not wanting to ’rock the boat’ after all, juggling work and home life take a particular set of expert skills!

    With work and home life probably different than in our forties and fifties now’s the time to expand your freedom.

    It can begin with taking your personal power back. You no longer need to walk on eggshells, worrying about what people think. In fact, if you have to worry at all, worry about where your own freedom is restricted:

    ·      Begin with asking for what you want. Because you are worth it.

    ·      After all these years it should now be about your own self-worth, living by your own set of values.

    ·      If you are a caring and sensitive soul, let's be very clear, it is a fact: we cannot nurture others from a dry well!

    As we all move through the gateway into our sixth decade, there are vital secrets we need to know and learn to enhance our personal power enabling us to age well. One vital key is how to live in the moment, with the first step being not to worry.

    This is what the Gateway into your Sixth Decade is all about: moving into a greater sense of your own self.

    BE TRUE TO YOUR DREAMS

    Are you following what makes your heart sing? Are you in alignment with the dreams of your earliest years?

    Life has a way of taking us everywhere but where our heart really lies - in that special and sacred space where we can lose ourselves in joy, peace and creativity.

    Two clients of mine recently began a new business together with a combined age (wisdom and experience) of 128 years.

    Their hearts were calling to them and they wanted to revolt against the expectation that when you’re in your sixties or older, the presumption is that   work will cease, let alone the idea of setting up a new business. They told me they could identify with their childhood dreams and in opening up to them, they were experiencing a new surge of energy.  

    We discussed positive role models identifying the rock and film stars from the seventies and eighties, and how many of them are challenging society’s assumption around ageing. 

    I see this pattern again and again: where the working career takes a person into say, law or engineering, yet on the inside they have always been an artist – poetry, painting, writing, some form of self-expression. This is exactly how my clients were looking at their lives right now. They were honouring the artist inside of them.

    When we listen to our hearts and our dreams and act upon them our payback will be more energy and vitality. My clients power of self-determination was giving them their longing for freedom to be in alignment with their childhood dreams.

    It is what it is and I am what I am.

    Bill Wyman of the Rolling Stones gave an interview where he said “When I reach an age where I’m unable to look after myself easily don’t assume I’ll want to be taken on outings with others of a similar age. No, I’ll want my independence to the end, marijuana on tap and any carers will need to be young, pretty and with short skirts!”  OK, so we might not all subscribe to Bill Wyman’s vision, but at least his view was a humorous one, where having fun and maintaining independence was high up on his list.  

    Some countries are taking advantage of this, in what I might call a silver-revolution: Japan is experiencing a super-ageing society with over 30% of the population now over sixty years of age.   They are gearing up for this ever-growing people power aware they are performing at a higher level than those of a similar age from the 20th century. Japan may well be leading the way in terms of the freedom and the quality of independence.

    What could all this mean for you and me and our personal power and freedom in our sixties and beyond?

    What pops into your mind when you think of freedom and ageing well? I’m curious to hear your thoughts. Please join the conversation!


     

    THINK YOURSELF INTO HAPPINESS

    "Everything is possible and nothing is impossible. You are only ever limited by your mind."

    Thanks for engaging with me in this blog, you’re invited to Join My Community and Facebook Page where you'll have access to e-books, share and discuss finer points with like-minded and hearted others, download podcasts and receive my monthly (once a month only promise) email! OH, and p.s. when you join my community as a thank you for sharing your email, you'll receive a guide questionnaire designed to help you see how your own mind approaches  happiness, relationships, wellbeing and working life.

    "We are all made of stars and carry eternity inside." Thich Nhat Hanh

     

     

    Your freedom to imagine and dream.

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    Your Gateway into your Sixth Decade and beyond is all about moving into a greater sense of your own self.

    What better way to do this than to open up to your imagination and your dreams?

     
    The shamans from the indigenous cultures say, when asked to cure a member of the community of their ills: “When did you stop dreaming? When was the last time you sang or danced? When did you last hear or tell a story?"
    For they know that when we stop dreaming, singing, dancing, hearing or sharing stories, in other words having fun and being playful and creative.   Well, we’ve stopped truly living. We've restricted our freedom, shut down our heart and mind to anything other than day by day routine. 
    We may be restricted in our actions, even in speech, yet our freedom to think and imagine are integral to being truly human. Both are free and both are accessible to you. 

    Seeing the Spaces In-Between 

    My life - my reality -  my take on the world really has all the answers I need. But this 24/7 world demands my time......but wait, hey, no it doesn't. I have all the time in the world!

    • I have entered the sixth decade. So I can cheerfully say I've entered it with eagerness.
    • I've stepped off the merry-go-round.

    OK so some of us may be pushed or perhaps eagerly jumped into being sixty and beyond.  While others, needed help to make that all important step through the Gateway. 

    When we are moving through the 40th and 50th Gateways we simply cannot see what is going on, because we are so often busy doing, busy juggling, just busy living. 

    It is now, as we move through the Gateway into our Sixties and beyond we have the time and can look for the shapes in-between... 

    And what do we find?

    Time has spaces in between,  a minute can be a long time, an hour can go so quickly.

    There are spaces in between conversations, we call them pauses, so much is said in those pauses.

    The spaces in between waiting for a flight, a train journey, a dental appointment.

    So-called empty spaces.

    Now's the very time to reflect upon dreams from childhood.

    Have you achieved them? Have you listened to them? If you would listen to them and could action upon them what would be different in your life right now? Because you see so many of us don't. 

     You really are the pattern maker and breaker of your own existence you know. Age is just a number. 

     

    Meet your imagination and intuition.

    Listening to your dreams, actioning upon your dreams will mean you will meet the playful and lighthearted parts of you. And they'll reawaken your own innate wisdom for joy, peace and healing.

    For the next week, dedicate 10 minutes, to imagining yourself at your absolute best as a what... a comedian, performer, movie star, singer or writer...?

    • .What will you look like?
    • What will you talk about?
    • How will the audience feel about you?
    • Jot down your thoughts. Enjoy imagining yourself in something you've never imagined or thought about yourself before.  How does it feel? How do you feel? Does it light your fire? Your passion? We need passion it maintains a youthful outlook on life. We experience vitality as well as energy through passion.  

    Meet with your intuitive self: your imagination and your insight, and you'll experience an alignment between your heart and mind. This is your access to your beautiful mind, your inner world, where an unlimited source of happiness, joy and vitality awaits. 


    It's my wellbeing, my energy, my vitality which helps me to age well...

    I can make choices: I can take back my thoughts, my mind, my feelings. I respond rather than react. I go with the flow. I don't react to triggers in the outer world.  First step? Trust in your reality and choose not to be triggered or driven by the outer world: media, culture, systems, people. 

    So what can I do?

    I can trust the shapes in-between.  Trust in being: in giving myself the space and time for reflection.  Understand that reflection inside my own mind guarantees greater clarity, peace and joy.

    You will begin to see the spaces in-between.  In other words you will see the world through your own eyes and begin to trust in your self. 

    What will happen when I do this?

    You'll experience how you can rest, release, repair, reset and recharge at will and 

    ~ UNLIMITED SELF CONFIDENCE, ENERGY AND VITALITY ~

    Now, that's worth having at any age!

     


     

    THINK YOURSELF INTO HAPPINESS

    "Everything is possible and nothing is impossible. You are only ever limited by your mind."

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    "We are all made of stars and carry eternity inside." Thich Nhat Hanh

    VITALITY AND ENERGY AND WHY YOU NEED THEM BOTH

     VITALITY WILL ALWAYS SUSTAIN YOU !

    VITALITY WILL ALWAYS SUSTAIN YOU !


    This blog first appeared on Sixty and Me Website where I am a guest blogger. 


    We all want to maintain our health and age well. Whilst energy levels can dip and dive, did you know that vitality will always sustain you?

    I’ve learned that what separates a vitality-person from an energetic-person is that it’s not about dashing here, there and everywhere, rather it’s much more about mindfulness and soulfulness.

    I’d like to share why vitality is so important as we age. I’m 63 now and confident in navigating my energy and vitality but it hasn’t all been plain sailing through those waves!

     At 36 I underwent an early menopause resulting in clinical depression with huge energy dips and dives alongside a breakdown in my immune system. I resolved from then onwards to understand how I manage my energy levels and age well, rejecting the medical practitioners prediction I would be “Old before my time” and my sex life was over.  That was a red rag to a bull let me tell you!

    Through my journey I discovered vitality. But first:

    Are you a lark or an owl?

     I’ve learned that I’m wider-awake with more energy in mid-afternoon into the evening. I’ve always been like that, so in charting my energy dips and dives I began looking for patterns. It turns out our birth time can effect our more productive energy times. So I’m an owl. I was born in the evening and I’m more alive in the evening. If you’re born early in the morning you may well be a lark. Is this you - up with the lark early in the morning?

    Do you have an energy dip between midday and mid-afternoon?

    If you want to even out your energy patterns make yourself take a nap or rest in the afternoon.  I learned this after my operations.  Giving myself ‘time out’ for me reduced my stress intake and increased my ability to relax at will.  It is a vital skill for moving through the ups and downs of life and a step on the way to living on the inside of my ‘Beautiful Mind’ where I could open up to vitality.   

     In fact, why don't we all take a leaf out of kindergarten’s book where everyone had cookies and milk and a rest after midday?  Imagine how different the world might be if everyone had an afternoon nap together?  The world is offline between midday and 2pm everyday!

    Unlocking your door into vitality

    There’s something different about people with vitality.

    • You can’t help but notice when they enter the room. There’s an aura around them, they seem to glow, whatever the time of day or night.
    • Problems? What problems! They’ll take challenges in their stride, moving through life’s gateways including the inevitable ageing threshold with alacrity.
    • They exude an inner strength and an inner peace. There are no dips or dives in vitality, it’s with them all of the time.

    Vitality has nothing to do with age and everything to do with transition.

     People with vitality move through the ups and downs of life, whilst others get stuck, they simply can’t or won’t move on. In my toughest times (so far) I was stuck in the memories, thoughts and experiences and needed to learn a way out of letting go of what hadn’t worked so well for me. I had to do this because my outlook on life and physical wellbeing were suffering. I needed to understand and accept that change is part of life. When we transition well through our personal challenges our payback is vitality.

    We face inevitable change in our sixties and beyond.

    Our roles change, many things shift and I’m not just talking gravity! Of course it can be difficult in accepting that life isn’t like it used to be and “We aren’t like we used to be.”  

    Why is vitality important as we age?

    Choice becomes vital because every choice you make may be crucial to your imminent wellbeing. If you choose therefore, to take even one small step toward moving through any stuck part of your life, your transitions in life will be easier. 

    What’s worked well for me and over 10,000 hours working with clients is creating a timeline to help free up what’s holding us back from having the time of our lives.  I learned how to let go of what has gone before including holding onto past memories that were no longer serving me well. Most importantly I learned how to reflect, release, repair and reset my mind at will. I promise you it’s less painful than remaining stuck, unable to go with the flow! A lighter hearted approach ensues whatever and whenever life throws a curved ball.  Vitality steps in.

    How will you know your vitality is growing? 

    Whilst on the outside the years will continue to show changes in your physical body and energy levels will dip and dive, on the inside, in your ‘Beautiful Mind,’ the soulful and mindful  ‘you’ continually glows because it’s here where vitality exists.

    Are you a lark or an owl? What might be different if the world was offline for two hours midday and we all had a nap?   Can you share your observations about vitality and energy?  Do you know people who have both? What are their ages? I’m curious to hear your thoughts. I’d love to hear from you!

     

    THINK YOURSELF INTO HAPPINESS

    "Everything is possible and nothing is impossible. You are only ever limited by your mind."

    Thanks for engaging with me in this blog, you’re invited to Join My Community and Facebook Page where you'll have access to e-books, share and discuss finer points with like-minded and hearted others, download podcasts and receive my monthly (once a month only promise) email! OH, and p.s. when you join my community as a thank you for sharing your email, you'll receive a guide questionnaire designed to help you see how your own mind approaches  happiness, relationships, wellbeing and working life.

    "We are all made of stars and carry eternity inside." Thich Nhat Hanh